Q. What does it mean when people say: "Conflict is a conversation that needed to happen?"
A. (Dr. Sondra Beres): If you choose to not speak up about something that is important to you in your relationship, you're basically choosing to have a future conflict. Many people are uncomfortable bringing up their opinions or needs in a relationship because they believe that doing so makes them selfish. However, a conversation that doesn't happen will likely become a future conflict. To avoid conflict, bring up your opinions or needs in a healthy way. Be careful to phrase your opinion or need in a way that others can easily hear. Instead of saying, "You never spend time with me," say, "I miss spending time with you." Simply rephrasing the need helps keep the other person from becoming defensive.